Understanding how to enjoy your own company will immediately:

• Change your luck and your life.
• Boost the caliber of your connections.
• Eliminate drama-causing emotional vampires from your life.
• Ensure that your worth, physical and mental health, and happiness are no longer dictated by your dependence on and need for others.

Only when you depend on someone other than yourself for your basic emotional needs can you be said to be “needy.”

You are unaffected by the “needy” moniker when you understand how to enjoy your own company.

People toxic, such as narcissists, start to WISH you need them.

And because you are now attractive to them, individuals with open hearts and minds begin to WANT you.

It is a league that you have created and imposed on yourself. It serves as the basis for emotional entrepreneurship as well.

The difference between sincerely desiring someone and needing their physical presence—even while they may be emotionally absent—is significant. It’s similar to the difference between needing air to survive and truly wanting someone.

” How to enjoy your own company?”

You’re still reading this post because you voluntarily handed away the keys to a unique, With the best of intentions, you should only run the priceless car.

It’s possible that you were transferred to the passenger seat or put in the backseat.

Perhaps someone is holding you captive in the trunk.

You might have been expelled from the metaphorical car altogether and now find yourself hitch-hiking on the highway of life, always reminiscing about the “good ol’ days” when you had a valuable vehicle that could have transported you ANYWHERE like Uncle Rico in Napolean Dynamite.

However, you are now. Stuck.

Everyone else is always at fault. Ask me how I am aware (I have a doctorate in emotional and relational hitch-hiking).

Perhaps you’ve convinced yourself that you’re not a good driver and that all you can do is rev the engine to draw attention to yourself and then submit to the passenger’s wishes.

Looking back on your past is the first step in learning how to enjoy your own company after a breakup, without friends, at school, or even just at home.

No one ever had the ideal parent, and no one will ever have the perfect parent.

Your parents made every effort to take care of you.

Your parents were at their finest if they were continuously poisonous and unreachable, if they spent money on issues rather than giving them their time and attention if they made you feel like you had to earn their love.

It was unrelated to your value or lack thereof.

They should have loved you unconditionally because you were a helpless child without a voice, but they trained you to perform to win their praise.

Now that you are an adult, you feel unworthy of the one person who will always matter more than all the others: YOU.

One of my parents used to be able to be all I wanted them to be with everyone else but me, and I used to internalize that. This hurt me. My grownup solution was triangulation in my connections with family, friends, and lovers. The ache of never being “good enough” to receive a crumb of a cookie that was my inheritance could only be dulled by doing it.

                      So what did I ultimately do? “how to enjoy your own company”?

• I created the impression that decent individuals had to compete with one another for my time, devotion, affection, and respect.
• I had a habit of lying.
• I always had drama going on and was in denial.
• Without the actual companionship, the influence, and the acceptance of others, I had no sense of who I was, so I violated all I purportedly stood for and imitated everyone around me.
• I betrayed those who were faithful to me.
• I had to constantly demonstrate how many friends I had (via social media and other channels).
• To gauge how “not alone” I was, I utilized things like hooking up with guys, the amount of “BFFS” I could accumulate, my social standing, and material goods (that I could not afford).

I have no idea how to enjoy my own company. Therefore I couldn’t face the thought of being alone myself.

I didn’t realize that all of the aforementioned coping strategies are trauma-response. They served only as means of avoiding reality and maintaining the deception. I would apply them to the metastatic CANCER of my inability to be alone with my thoughts, which were small (and extremely harmful) bandages.

I believe that looking back at our childhood can often answer questions about continuous emotional agony, self-sabotage, low self-esteem, bad relationship luck, etc., throughout our adulthood.

It involves looking at the pain we’ve gone through and the abandonment we’ve felt with the zeal and interest of an archaeologist (and the result of empowerment). As opposed to our impulsive habit of disempowerment and victimization, which enables us to label, shame, and punish ourselves into an impenetrable cage of mediocrity.

I grew up in an anxious attachment-heavy environment. I spent my entire life trying to escape being alone, distracting myself with friends, activities, pointless drama, showboating, internet use, and so on.

The truth is that if you know how to appreciate your own company, you might be surrounded by many family members and friends. You might enjoy the highest popularity at work, community, or school.

Another possibility is that you don’t have anyone to contact or go out to eat with. No one ever asks how you’re doing or even gives back a little portion of the love you offer them from the bottom of your heart.

The point is that you might not have friends or family. You could also have a large, unhappy, toxic family and fake friends. In either case, the person who has everything you wish you had would experience the same paralyzing effects that you do if loneliness is the common denominator of your illness and agony.

You cannot enjoy your own company because every time you attempted to learn how to do so as a youngster, how to enjoy your own company, you experienced some form of disempowerment. Without it, the loneliness was too overwhelming and unbearable. You were so desperate for affirmation and praise. It’s possible that someone you respected and trusted made you feel unimportant.

As a result, you need to find someone else to save you from yourself.

Let’s discuss how to enhance the quality of the one connection you can never afford to lose now that we have determined the underlying reason why you don’t know how to enjoy your own company.

How can you become happy in your own company? Is it possible to learn to enjoy oneself after a breakup or without friends?

Many of the same tips can be found by searching “how to enjoy your own company” on the internet.

• Engage in a conversation with oneself.
• “Go out on a date by yourself!”
• “Purge your thoughts,”
• “Be grateful for all the little things.”
• “Make plans and travel alone.”
• “Accept the past and move on.”
• “Excuse yourself.”
• “Make yourself a healthy dinner and get yourself a weighted blanket.”

These are all excellent ideas. I didn’t want to waste time discussing these solutions because they are widely available online.

I recently found some quotes from Tom Hardy that were much easier to understand. They resonated with me more than the ideas mentioned above. Even though I don’t agree with everything Tom says, these quotes at least got my brain working. I was either exclaiming “Yes!” or “Amen!” after reading each one.

“How to enjoy your own company?”

“Long periods of alone can be hazardous. It’s compulsive. Once you experience its tranquilly, you no longer desire to interact with people.” 

In my opinion, you no longer want to waste your time with toxic people. By taking advantage of your want for approval, toxic people gain theirs. You begin to put your peace first when you recognize that being in toxic relationships moreens your sense of isolation than if you were genuinely by yourself. Prioritizing peace makes it more secure. And once it’s protected, You start to gain self-respect and understand that your best friend has supported you throughout the entire process (you).

“People fail to recognise how wonderful it is to be at home by yourself, having snacks and being completely alone.” 

Yup. I couldn’t agree more or put it more succinctly.

You’ve come here to learn HOW to enjoy your own company, and I’ll show you how. You must understand that not everyone on this planet has stood by your side through absolutely everything.

There is NOT SINGLE person in the world who is aware of EVERY SINGLE DETAIL, SECRET, FAILURE, DISGUSTING HABITS, SUCCESSFULNESS, REJECTION, PAIN, TRAUMA, AND THE

You are the ONLY person aware of everything mentioned above about how to enjoy your own company and who has managed to maintain a heartbeat despite abuse, stress, and donning a restrictive label that was never intended for you.

Don’t you merit some respect for yourself? Instead of depending on others to care for you, don’t you deserve to love and care for yourself?

You cannot be saved from yourself by anyone. No one but YOU has walked in your shoes, so no one else can help you heal from your past.

You can only begin to appreciate your own company and become more selective about who spends time with you after you realize that you are your leader, rescuer, best friend, healer, protector, and greatest love (because you love YOUR TIME with YOU).

I consider it a skill to take pleasure in one’s own company.I’ve been waiting a very long time, but I am finally at peace with myself. Acknowledging all that my “self” had accomplished for me over the years when I did nothing but mistreat, sabotage, limit, and undermine her made this easier.

I currently possess that weighted blanket. I adore going on dates with myself. Treating myself to small indulgences and nourishing my body with delicious food is no longer difficult but enjoyable. These things can’t just be skipped over. Things like a weighted blanket, going on dates with yourself, etc., are what NATURALLY happen when you put in the necessary effort and start with the appropriate principles.

Now, if I go out to eat alone, I won’t have to fidget or be on my phone out of discomfort.

“How to enjoy your own company”?

I am, first and foremost, my best buddy.

Our partners and our friends become our chosen family members. It’s time to treat yourself with more respect if you want to make more informed decisions.

Because I was always dishonoring and insulting myself, I used to put up with rudeness.

Once you stop attempting to make users into what your ego needs them to be, you won’t feel awful about avoiding them and instead START GIVING YOURSELF everything that ONLY YOU KNOW YOU NEED. This is because you will no longer tolerate anyone treating you any differently than you consistently treat yourself.

YOU CAN DO THIS IF I CAN.

You are never, ever alone, and you can do this.